Tuesday, November 9, 2010

All the Different Weddings

Since the day that Paul proposed I've been thrilled to marry him, but I have to admit we've been slow to plan the actual wedding.  When I tell people that the big day is in April, the question to follow is always, where are you doing it?  How's the planning going?  And when I tell them that I'm still in the "research" phase (but I have my invitations and flowers nailed down!) there's always a brief look of horror that crosses their faces.  I personally don't see a problem with planning what is essentially a small series of parties five months in advance rather than twelve months in advance, but this is New York after all.  People here like to do things to the extreme.

So, in addition to my exhaustive research on restaurants and party spaces (which I really am doing, I promise) I have also, in a nod to the wedding gods and over involved acquaintances, entered the vortex of wedding blogs.

For those uninitiated, these blogs feature "real weddings" from around the country, with a few DIY tips and the like thrown in for good measure.  While reading such postings I alternate between a feeling of total alienation (I struggle to identify with the couples who pose running through fields of wildflowers towards their masses of matching bridesmaids) and total intimidation.

I mean, how could my wedding ever be as fun as this one,

where a hilarious friend officiated and Brazilian dancers were only one of many bits of entertainment?

And how could my food ever be as good as at this one,

where nearly whole animals were roasted in a gorgeous outdoor scene?

And how could my venue ever be as spectacular as this one,

where the bride and groom celebrated with their nearest and dearest in a picturesque town in France?

They're all so...ugh...perfect.

All I can say is thank goodness for East Side Bride.  When I came across this site I breathed a huge sigh of relief.  Today she's talking about man tea parties (apparently they involve scruffy guys from Brooklyn and tinned sardines), the other day she was convincing a panicked bride to be that planning a wedding in two months was no big deal (I know, right?!), and a while back she was advocating for tie dyed wedding dresses.  But only if your husband to be will think you hot in it.  I love her irreverence, her non-conformist tendencies, the lack of professional wedding photography on her website.  After I'm done panicking at the sight of all the new incredible "real life weddings" each day, her site provides me solace and sanity.  Thank you kind East Side Bride lady.


brismod said...

East Side Bride sounds like my kind of wedding site. All I can say is that we spent more on the honeymoon than we did on our humble wedding. And we still had the best time on the day. Good luck for your wedding plans, I'm sure you'll be fine.

materfamilias said...

My daughter is getting married in June, and while she's chosen not to have the simple beachfront reception (our home is waterfront, on a small island) that her sister did a few years ago, she's keeping it small and simple. The dress she loves is a relatively modest price (around $1000) and she'll splash out on shoes. We're hoping that we can get a photographer who'll just do an hour or so for the ceremony and we'll rely on amateur photogs for the rest. The reception (at the private club her HTB cooks at) will be immediate family only, but parties to celebrate with friends will follow.
Much money has been spent getting this young woman through school, not a penny of which do we regret -- $50,000 for a wedding just looks like a wasted down payment (on a home) to me. I'm very happy to see East Side Bride, a refreshing antidote to those many sites who pay far too much attention to what is really just one day, albeit a very special way -- it's the marriage, not the wedding, that really matters. That said, I wish you the best in planning for a beautiful, fun wedding that makes both you and your HTB very happy.

Mlle Paradis said...

east side bride is a great site. good luck with your own planning. and i vote yes for the tie dyed dress!

Terry B, Blue Kitchen said...

I'm kind of expecting you'll settle on something utterly charming, slightly unexpected, absolutely memorable and simple rather than extravagant. That seems like your style, Laura.

Sneaky Magpie said...

Your wedding will be perfect Laura because it will be yours, it is a very very special day. City weddings can be as perfect as country weddings too.

I organised mine in 6 months and at the end of it I could not stand all the appointments so I canceled my hair and make up, did it myself, cancel the bouquet and went to the market on my wedding day morning, bought white peonies and tied them with a ribbon. There were a lot of things that I missed but it was perfect for me. And everyone enjoyed the laid back celebration.

Good luck, I am more than sure that it will be just as you want it!

Laura [What I Like] said...

Awww....thanks so much for all the aaffirming sentiments! I feel much calmer now, much.

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