Since the day that Paul proposed I've been thrilled to marry him, but I have to admit we've been slow to plan the actual wedding. When I tell people that the big day is in April, the question to follow is always, where are you doing it? How's the planning going? And when I tell them that I'm still in the "research" phase (but I have my invitations and flowers nailed down!) there's always a brief look of horror that crosses their faces. I personally don't see a problem with planning what is essentially a small series of parties five months in advance rather than twelve months in advance, but this is New York after all. People here like to do things to the extreme.
So, in addition to my exhaustive research on restaurants and party spaces (which I really am doing, I promise) I have also, in a nod to the wedding gods and over involved acquaintances, entered the vortex of wedding blogs.
For those uninitiated, these blogs feature "real weddings" from around the country, with a few DIY tips and the like thrown in for good measure. While reading such postings I alternate between a feeling of total alienation (I struggle to identify with the couples who pose running through fields of wildflowers towards their masses of matching bridesmaids) and total intimidation.
I mean, how could my wedding ever be as fun as this one,
where a hilarious friend officiated and Brazilian dancers were only one of many bits of entertainment?
And how could my food ever be as good as at this one,
where nearly whole animals were roasted in a gorgeous outdoor scene?
And how could my venue ever be as spectacular as this one,
where the bride and groom celebrated with their nearest and dearest in a picturesque town in France?
They're all so...ugh...perfect.
All I can say is thank goodness for East Side Bride. When I came across this site I breathed a huge sigh of relief. Today she's talking about man tea parties (apparently they involve scruffy guys from Brooklyn and tinned sardines), the other day she was convincing a panicked bride to be that planning a wedding in two months was no big deal (I know, right?!), and a while back she was advocating for tie dyed wedding dresses. But only if your husband to be will think you hot in it. I love her irreverence, her non-conformist tendencies, the lack of professional wedding photography on her website. After I'm done panicking at the sight of all the new incredible "real life weddings" each day, her site provides me solace and sanity. Thank you kind East Side Bride lady.